Here is “The 10 Most Unwanted List” taken from Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, by Dr. Rick Brinkman and Dr. Rick Kirschner. I know, I know, you can think of tons of people that fit into all of these catagories, but instead try to figure out which one you are and which one is your most unwanted. I have to admit that I fall into all of the first five to some degree, but rarely if ever into the last five. My most unwanted is the Maybe Person. I just want to strangle them!
The Tank–the tank is confrontational, pointed, and angry, the ultimate in pushy and aggressive behavior.
The Sniper–whether through rude comments, biting sarcasm, or a well-timed roll of the eyes, making you look foolish is the Sniper’s specialty.
The Grenade–after a brief period of calm, the Grenade explodes into unfocused ranting and raving about things that have nothing to do with the present circumstances.
The Know-It-All–seldom in doubt, the Know-It-All has a low tolerance for correction and contradiction. If something goes wrong, however, the Know-It-All will speak with the same authority about who’s to blame–you!
The Think-They-Know-It-All–Think-They-Know-It-Alls can’t fool all the people all of the time, but they can fool some of the people enough of the time, and enough of the people all of the time–all for the sake of getting some attention.
The Yes Person–in an effort to please people and avoid confrontation, Yes People say “yes” without thinking things through. They react to the latest demands on their time by forgetting prior commitments, and overcommit until they have no time for themselves. Then they become resentful.
The Maybe Person–in a moment of decision, the Maybe Person procrastinates in the hope that a better choice will present itself. Sadly, with most decisions, there comes a point when it is too little, too late, and the decision makes itself.
The Nothing Person–no verbal feedback, no nonverbal feedback. Nothing. What else could your expect from…the Nothing Person.
The No Person–more deadly to morale than a speeding bullet, more powerful than hope, able to defeat big ideas with a single syllable. Disguised as a mild mannered normal person, the No Person fights a never ending battle for futility, hopelessness, and despair.
The Whiner–Whiners feel helpless and overwhelmed by an unfair world. Their standard is perfection, and no one and nothing measure up to it. But misery loves company, so they bring their problems to you. Offering solutions makes you bad company, so their whining escalates.